There’s as few things in life as powerful as decisions.
A good decision can leave us happy and fulfilled, fresh and energetic, ready to face the day.
A bad decision can leave us burdened by regret, wishing for anything other than what we chose.
Sometimes we need to choose between two evils, sometimes the choice is clear cut, like rain and sun, or freezing and cosy warm.
The process of good decision making is one of continual improvement, feedback, and revision. one never truly arrives and yet one can never go back to the way they used to make decisions. Everyone must learn as they go, and keep getting a little better.
Two ingredients of a good decision are experience and understanding. Along with intuition, it’s as if the world is your oyster.
Simultaneously employing the principle of Amor Fati, “the love of fate”, allows a person to take control of what they can and should, and not worry about the rest, but rather love what happens.
This balance of proactivity and acceptance creates a powerful synergy which can direct you to make better decisions. Your energy is focused on what you can affect and change. Your mind is at ease because you are doing what you should and have nothing else to worry about. You are growing and moving.
Knowing what you do control and what you do not control is the first step for good decisions. Own yourself, your future, your body, your comfort, and your consequences.
The next step is trusting yourself. This is something I’ve only now started to have within myself, a sense of trust. After many years of mistakes and learnings and experiences, my intuition and foresight is more finely tuned than it used to be, and now (and only now) am I beginning to trust it fully.
Trust yourself, your experiences, your insight, your research, your conscience and your gut.
My trust lies in experience, evidence and information. They are the metrics of my trust. I should be able to address recurring bad decisions based on honest evaluation. I try to gather reputable information to make informed decisions, and I avoid as many appeals to emotion as possible.
I also remember. I remember how I felt in bad situations that came about because of decisions, and I think about how the situation could have been avoided. Was it my decision that sprouted the bad luck? Why did I make that decision? What could I have done differently? What will I do differently in the future?
Making good decisions for yourself and those around you will become more comfortable and more common over time. I know I need to keep learning and reviewing, and be able to listen to myself honestly.
A good decision is one of the greatest things you can do for yourself.